Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Single? What's that?

I would like to comment on the dating culture at BYU. To start I will make the generalization that most people at BYU are looking to get married. From this premise I will continue on to my pet-peeves about people who date in Provo. (My opinions are somewhat biased toward the female perspective because I am one)

1. Going on dates is the primary reason we go out and interact with the outside world.
2. Even if you are just hanging out with members of the same sex, people still call it girl-date or a friend-date. Apparently saying hanging out has gone out of style.
3. When meeting new people, the question of "are you dating anyone?" gets thrown in in-between 'where are you from?' and 'what is your major?'
4. There are girls out there, you know who you are, that will go on dates with guys just to get free food and entertainment. You already know you don't like the guy but that doesn't stop you from letting this sweet boy spend his hard earned money on you. It is because of this that I will always pay for myself. Also, I feel like I owe guys something if I let them pay, but that's a whole other issue.
5. Girls will measure themselves by how many dates they get asked on. The more dates a girl goes on, the more other girls will want to be like her.
6. When girls starting dating someone exclusively, I'm pretty sure they fall off the face of the earth... literally. Well almost. You either don't hear from them until they break up or get engaged, or they can't talk about anything outside the topic of their significant other. And these people have the most interesting ways of bringing their boyfriend or girlfriend into every conversation. It's a unique skill they have developed in Intro to Dating. I think I missed this class...
7. Whenever I go back to my home ward, the question of 'so, are you dating anyone?' comes up before 'how is school going?'. Thankfully my mother has heard enough of my ranting to run diversions when people ask and when people ask her she will tell them that I am not at BYU to get married, I'm here to get an education. It might seem crazy and outlandish, but obtaining a degree is my goal, not finding a husband.
8. Halfway through the middle of freshman year your friends begin to get engaged and they drop off the face of the earth. They no longer can spend a minute away from their husbands. When I hear people tell me I should get a boyfriend so we can hang out, I'm tempted to punch a wall just so I don't punch them in the face. I didn't realize that to be friends I needed to be in a relationship as well. Apparently, single people can't be friends with married people.
9. This might be the biggest issue I have. So many girls come here to find a husband. That is not what BYU is for! It is a place to get a quality education. If you are here to get an MRS degree, go to UVU or something and become friends with people from BYU. Those whos' single goal is to get married are taking the valuable spot someone else would have made use of. Plenty of people around the world work so hard to get into BYU but can't because you are taking their spot. Others pay the tithing that funds your education and you waste it.

DISCLAIMER: Some of  these points might be slightly exaggerated but I did so to get my point across. It was not my goal to offend anyone. This was a small scale rant about the frustrations I face here at BYU. I'm honestly just not the dating type. So that is my rant. Hope you found it entertaining :)

2 comments:

  1. This made me laugh. Sorry if I'm one of your lame married (not) friends. I have a comment about number 4. I think it's perfectly acceptable. Unless the guy is super ugly or something and you really would never actually have anything in common with him. I mean how is dating for free food any different than going on a date for a motorcycle ride?? You never know...you could marry that person ;)

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